Vendor Spotlight: By Captivate

Let’s face it – we couldn’t be who we are, without our fabulous vendors. Over the years we’ve met so many wonderful individuals in the wedding industry. We decided to reach out to some of our vendors from the past and present, and ask them what fuels their business and what they're all about! So, sit down and relax with us as we sit down with our vendors to discuss what is at the heart of their business. We are so excited about this week’s vendor:

BY CAPTIVATE

Our mission is to serve our couples beyond the “I do” by capturing in-the-moment memories that last a lifetime. Through story-driven filmmaking, we’ll make documenting your day easy, carefree, and couple-focused so every detail, every moment, and every emotion can be re-lived for years to come.




 We’re dying to know – what made you dive into the world of weddings?
As life partners and parents, we know the feeling of “life passing you by” all too well. When we held our firstborn in our arms for the first time, we knew we couldn’t let one moment go by undocumented. From then on, we wanted to capture every single milestone, all while making sure we weren't sacrificing mindfulness and living in the present moment. That's exactly how we discovered our passion for filmmaking. Our heartbeat is to serve couples through filmmaking to help them remember and cherish the moments that matter the most forever, while allowing them to soak up every minute of their wedding day with ease.

Tell us about how you started your business.
A little over 10 years ago, we launched our videography venture. We've always been drawn to the camera, capturing the genuine moments that make life special. Throughout the past decade, we have filmed just about everything – from real estate and small business commercials to family photos. And now, we're excited to bring that touch to weddings!

What's the secret sauce behind bringing that touch of elegance to your projects?
What sets us apart is our unique approach. Our aim is to ensure you relish every moment of your wedding day, surrounded by your favorite people, without it feeling like an extended photo session. We assist in creating a serene atmosphere, allowing you to be fully present in the moment, while we seamlessly capture every detail for you to cherish later on.

Any wild, funny, or heartwarming tales from your wedding adventures?
One of our favorite heartwarming moments was from a wedding in Bonney Lake. The bride had a four-year-old son, who was beyond excited for his mom to get married, and to welcome his new dad into the family. The bride planned a special First look with her son. As soon as he saw her, he squealed with joy and exclaimed “Mommy you look so pretty!” We will never forget that moment, and the happy tears shared by all in the room!

Advice you want to give couples about the wedding planning process?
You’ve spent valuable time planning the perfect wedding day, but with every piece of planning advice you always seem to hear, “The day will fly by!” This day is a culmination of thoughtful decision-making, hours of planning, and your personal love story, and it should be documented as such. It’s not enough to capture stills. It’s time to document your day in a living way.

What trends do you hope to see or want to see in 2024?
We love seeing more and more private last dances. It’s usually the last moments of the night when the couple can share a special dance. It’s the perfect time to soak in the beautiful celebration and all the memories made from the day.

Spill the tea – what's the next big thing in weddings that has you buzzing with excitement?
We are so excited to see all of the new colors, trends, and vibes that are coming to the wedding world. It truly is an ever-evolving space, and we are so excited to see what comes next!

We love working with you, why do you love working with us?
We love working with Tiffany and Lori from Elegant Affairs. The work they do is truly so detail-oriented. No stone is left unturned in the planning process. They also come ready with three years of experience to navigate elegantly through any unforeseen circumstance on the day of.

Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.

Exploring Traditional Wedding Etiquette

What wedding etiquette trends did you follow for your wedding day? Or what traditional etiquette rules do you plan on following? Let’s face it, it’s 2024. Throughout our time in the industry, we’ve seen wedding trends and etiquette come and go. Many couples are choosing to create unique, individualized experiences that stray away from what we think is typical or traditional. Weddings that we used to attend as children sure look a lot different than weddings that we flock to now. But, there are still many couples that opt for more of a traditional affair with these etiquettes in place. There are some aspects to weddings that many consider classic or respectful to one's culture, traditions, and family history. At the end of the day, no matter what route you choose to follow, every wedding is fit to the needs of the couple, which is really what matters. So, let’s explore some of the classic traditional wedding etiquette, but remember — just because it’s traditional etiquette doesn’t mean you have to fit the mold. 

#01: Be on Time 

Arriving on time for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception is vital. Now, not just for your guests, but for the wedding party and YOU. Everyone understands that hiccups and the occasional mishaps happen prior to walking down the aisle. But you want to stay on your timeline and ensure that you are not arriving late. Of course, your guests don’t mind waiting a few minutes, but when they are waiting in the hot sun for over a half hour for you to make your appearance, there are going to be some unhappy campers. Timing also impacts your vendors. Vendors work diligently to create your perfect day, therefore timeliness is important and a sign of respect. You want to respect your vendors’ time as well. So, work on sticking to your timeline (to the best of your ability) because, ultimately the timeline affects everyone. 

#02: Let your Guests be Guests

Weddings are a celebration of your love with your family and friends. It is a time for your guests to enjoy the experience with you – that means that you and your partner are the hosts of your guests. It is your role to not only host the wedding but to essentially take “care” of your guests. This includes ensuring accommodations for all guests are met throughout the night, including food AND drinks. Traditionally cash bars are a no-no. You don’t want your guests to have to pay for anything the night of your event. Traditionally it is frowned upon for your guests to pay for their own beverages. If you are able to budget for simple drinks, such as beer and wine, with easy non-alcoholic beverages, go that route. You don’t need to supply the whole liquor store to be a good guest. Plus, limiting your wedding alcohol selection means that guests won’t get too rowdy throughout your celebration. So, if you can – create the best experience – and free that is – for your guests to participate in. Let them enjoy and celebrate you, you are the hosts of your wedding day! 

#03: Keep Things Moving 

Okay, think about your worst wedding experience. Most of my worst wedding experiences tie into our #01 etiquette rule, about not having people wait, but this also means don’t wait for guests to be fed and for the party to start. Personally, I’ve been to a few weddings where there is a big gap of time between the ceremony and cocktail hour, or even the cocktail hour and the reception. If you are choosing to use the same venue for each aspect of your wedding, don’t make your guests wait and keep things moving. You definitely don’t want to keep your guests waiting, foodless, or for hours on end while you and your partner take your newlywed photos. As you plan your timeline, remember to be swift and minimize the time between each function for the wedding day. You don’t want your guests to be bored, or to be hangry. Avoid any long breaks that you can avoid. 

#04: Don’t Get Too Creative with Seating Charts

Oh– the dreaded seating charts. When it comes down to making seating charts you always want to think carefully about how you are seating your guests. But there are a few rules of thumb for etiquette when planning your seating chart. First, don’t isolate your guests. This includes not creating tables of single-only guests, or putting all the people who don’t know each other together. When planning your seating chart, you want to think about how you can group your guests for positive conversations and friendships to spark. Think about similar interests, who may work together, or who may have similar hobbies or likes. Whatever you do, don’t isolate anyone, and don’t make a whole table feel like wedding outcasts. 

#05: Don’t Forget to Say Thank You! 

Be gracious. Be absolutely gracious and say thank you to your guests. Your guests have traveled far and wide to be a part of your wedding day and many have included gifts, if you opted for that option. At some point in the evening, you need to make a point to thank each individual person, whether through a formal receiving line, visiting each table to give hugs and say thank you, or a thank you speech during your toasts. Showing gratitude is important, especially as the host. And of course, remember to send out your thank you cards in a timely manner. There are many rules of thumb regarding thank you cards, some say it’s best to send a thank you card within 6 weeks of your wedding day. Others may say, to send the thank you card before you use the item. But – ALWAYS send a thank you card. Don’t let the gifts and cards pile up and be forgotten. Create a spreadsheet and a running record of who sent what. Check it off the list when you’ve mailed the card. But tradition says, to mind your manners and be a gracious host - which of course includes those thank yous. 

Whether you’re opting for a traditional affair or a wedding with unique touches, you can choose what wedding etiquette you want to include on your wedding day. At the end of the day what is considered traditional wedding etiquette is just a fancy way of saying don’t forget your manners on your big day. Be gracious to your guests, don’t forget to say thank you, be thoughtful when planning the overall experience including time frames, seating arrangements, and letting your guests truly enjoy your event. Whether you include these traditional planning elements is up to you, but whatever you choose, keep your wedding party, guests, and yourselves in mind.

Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.

Deck the Halls with….Bouquets!

What do you envision for floral design on your wedding day? We’ve seen so many different floral arrangements and bouquets in the last decade. We’ve also made so numerous bouquets for our brides throughout the years that all have their one unique flair. Trends have come and gone through the years and we’ve seen it all. From cascading lilies to dainty wildflower bouquets – there are so many unique options that your bouquet can truly be just right for you. One of the most unique times for bridal bouquets is winter. Color palettes are truly one of a kind for winter, in the fact that you can use all colors and explore varying shades of vibrance. Winter bouquets can feature seasonal greens or even dried flowers! Let’s break down some of our favorite winter bouquets from our winter wedding season last year. 





All the Greens

We’re starting off with a bang, with winter bouquets is one of our favorites. This bouquet features greenery and lots of it! There are TONS of different greenery choices to feature in your bouquets. Some of our favorite choices are: lemon leaf, ruckus, lambs ear, dusty miller, seeded eucalyptus, boxwood, bay leaf, willow eucalyptus, and silver dollar eucalyptus. There are a few benefits to adding fresh greens to your bridal bouquet. First, greenery can often spare you a few bucks in your budget. Greenery can go a long way, because they are often purchased by the bunch, rather than the stem. Also, greenery is a great option for brides that want their bouquet to have more of an organic look. It is perfect for our boho or rustic brides. Yes, in winter, you don't need to worry about the heat – but a major perk is that they last. You don’t have to worry about your bouquet wilting throughout the day - your bouquet will stay fresh and last well after your wedding day! 


It’s all about Balance, Baby

A bride and her bridal bouqet.

You can still be a big fan of the greenery, but tie in subtle touches of your wedding theme and color palette. In the past, bouquets were often filled with flowers – and we mean flowers on flowers – the more the better right? Well, times have evolved to offer brides many different unique looks with a healthy blend of florals and greenery. We’re seen less of a touch of greenery, and more greenery all around. But, we love seeing a balance between greenery and florals. It creates a modern and romantic touch and photograph beautifully. Combining the two creates a beautiful blend to any bouquet. As you choose the flowers, stay true to what your wedding colors are. This is a great time to tie in what guests will see at the reception, or what attire your wedding party will be wearing. After you choose your flowers, work with your florist and pick greenery that will complement and add dimension to your bouquet. We love that this bouquet features the bride and groom’s wedding color scheme and creates a romantic look. 

Contrasting Florals

Winter provides the perfect background for color. Often, when people think of a winter wedding they automatically jump to the traditional view of winter – Christmas. To be honest, yes, we have the occasional Christmas theme wedding, primarily the color choices, but most of our winter weddings feature bold color choices that really pop. Winter is the perfect time to be a little daring and choose vibrant color choices like burgundy, pink, hot pink, magenta, red, black, and orange. Adding flowers such as white anemones is the perfect nod to winter. Pairing a delicate flower with vibrant roses or ranunculus really creates a unique wintery look. Don’t be afraid to ask your florist, or create your own bouquet with colors from opposite ends of the color wheel. We promise you, your photos will turn out stellar and your guests will be in awe of your bridal bouquet. 


Traditional with a Twist

There is nothing wrong with sticking with a traditional bouquet. And by traditional, we mean filled with florals. Now, there are ways to add a modern twist, such as showing the flower stems, and choosing modern flowers. This bouquet was featured at one of our winter weddings last season. We love this bouquet because it is more towards the traditional wedding bouquet, but it is traditional with a twist. First, let’s talk about the flower choices. Her bouquet was filled with garden roses, orchids, white anemones, and more. The bride and florist ventured out and chose flowers that provided contrast, dimension, and truly created a visual masterpiece. We love how this bouquet also featured a small ombre look, which really draws the eye in. 


Put a Ring on it

We’ve circled back, literally, to one of our favorite design looks, bouquets but build on a hoop or ring. We featured this look back at one of the Seattle Wedding Show Expos and we even DIY’d it ourselves. We love this bouquet because it is out of the box, but elegant. It creates an eye-catching moment as your wedding party walks down the aisle. Plus, these bouquets can be repurposed in the reception! They can create a backdrop for a sweetheart table, surround candles on tables, or more. And who doesn’t love saving on the wedding budget and using items from the ceremony?!


At the end of the day, whatever style of bouquet you choose, stay true to what your vision is and create a timeless look. Bouquets are one of the focal points at the ceremony, so take some time to find inspiration before consulting with your florist or choosing to DIY your bouquets. As always, research any decisions you make and find flowers that stay true to the season. Don’t be afraid to create a lush bouquet of greens, or be a little daring in your traditional bouquet. Find a good balance when building your dream bouquet and remember - it’s okay to think outside of the box and have a little fun with it. 

Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.