Light up your Wedding Day

Winter is filled with gorgeous lights. Lights line the streets, rooftops, and truly makes the Christmas season bright. Selecting lights is not only an important process when decorating your home for the holidays, but it plays an important role in your wedding. Wedding lighting serves a dual purpose. Not only is it functional – we mean lights are necessary to see – but they create a stylish ambience to your wedding day. Choosing the correct lighting is important, because it sets the mood for your ceremony and reception as well as highlighting all of the individual decor touches you have selected. Today, we’re going to explore the different aspects of lighting. You may not know where to begin or what direction to go in. Let us help you find your way to the light. 

01#: All about Lights 

There are so many different ways to add lights to your wedding day. There are definitely different terms and aspects to selecting the right light for each portion of your day. So, let’s talk about some terminology. 

  • LED Lights: LED lights are becoming more popular. This is a cost effective type of light that will last the whole night. A lot of the lights we see now are LED lights, including fairy lights and even some traditional bulb lights. They offer a brighter light than traditional warm bulbs. 

  • Pendant: A pendant light can come in all different types. These are typically hung from the ceiling and can be used to provide different backdrops. 

  • Spotlight: A spotlight can often be used to highlight one particular moment, such as your first dance, or ceremony space. 

  • Uplighting: Uplighting is one of the more traditional forms of adding lighting to your wedding. Many couples choose to feature uplighting at their reception to add dimension. These are lights that point up and can be shone in a variety of colors. Often, our couples choose uplighting that features colors from their color scheme. 

  • Gobo Lighting: This lighting is a custom lighting that can feature a design or detail. We’ve had couples in the past use this lighting to display their married monogram, or a detail that was featured throughout their theme, or wedding invites. 

  • String Lights: String lights are just as it sounds. A string of lights that can often be LED lights, fairy lights etc, italian light bulbs, bistro lighting etc. These are popular in outdoor weddings or rustic venue spaces. 

  • Candle Light: This is one of the most popular forms of lighting that can be cost effective. Candles can be used in hurricane vases, as a taper, or featured in a centerpiece. We’ve used candles to line the aisles of a ceremony space or create a warm and inviting table centerpiece.


02#: Lights & Budgeting 

There are definitely more affordable lighting options compared to others. Some of the more expensive lighting techniques are uplighting, gobo lighting, and pendants. Candles can be costly, depending on where you purchase them from. If you chose to use lighting in your budget as the main form of decor, or just to highlight portions of your night, be sure to create a budget just for lighting. Talk to your vendors and see who can provide lighting. Sometimes, your DJ or entertainment will provide uplighting or spotlights in particular packages. Your wedding planner or coordinator will be able to point you in the right direction of how and who to tackle lighting with. As you plan this portion of your budget, be sure to interview a few vendors, ask for quotes, and be sure to ask if delivery and set-up is included. 

03#: The Bottom Line 

If you choose to light up your ceremony or reception, there are a few questions that need to guide your decision making process. Not only will you need to think about these questions with your partner, but you will need to ask your venue and/or vendors, too. 

Does your wedding venue (ceremony and reception) allow lighting? 

If adding lighting is a must have for your wedding ceremony and reception, before you sign on the dotted line, you need to have a discussion with the venue. Many venues have rules and regulations regarding lighting. The most common rule you will see is no open flame. You’ll need to ask if enclosed flame will work (such as using a vase or glass) or if only flameless candles are allowed. 

What will lighting look like at specific times of day? 

Lighting is specific. Lights can look different at different times of day. As you select what lighting you want to use, you need to think how it will look in your particular venue at the time of your event. For example, you may not want to use candles if you are planning a morning wedding. Or if you plan on using candles only for light, you want to ensure that it will provide enough light for your guests at your reception. We highly recommend visiting your venue at the planned time of your wedding to ensure the lighting you selected is sufficient. 

Where are the outlets? 

Be sure to scout out all of your outlets or design a plan - especially if you’re hosting an outdoor wedding. The last thing you want to be doing on the day of your wedding, is finding all of the outlets to run your lights or learning that the power needed cannot be accommodated by the venue. You may even need to bring your vendor that is providing the light to complete a walk through at the venue. This will allow these individuals to create a plan to execute your vision. 


There are so many different options for lighting. Whether you want to add a little lighting to your ceremony or backdrop for the reception, it is a fun way to add color and warmth to your space. Don’t be afraid to light up a room, sky, or venue with a variety of lighting options. And the best part about lighting, is it is for every type of event. As you plan the lighting for your wedding, be sure to run through your timeline of events and decide what kind of lighting and when you will need it. Create a checklist to help ensure that each part of the day and wedding has the lighting that you need. So, start searching for inspiration and add some light to your wedding day! It is the perfect way to really make your wedding shine. 


Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.

Create a Winter Worthy Color Palette

There are many reasons to love the winter months, after all for many, the season is merry and bright. Of course we love spending time with our families and friends during the holiday season, but we also love planning and coordinating our couples’ winter weddings. And to be honest, one of our favorite reasons is the unique style that winter offers. We love it all – the decor, the unique touches of the holiday season, and the color options. We’ve compiled some of our favorite winter photos of past Elegant Affairs’ winter weddings and used them as inspiration for winter mood boards. So, grab yourself a warm cup of hot cocoa and let’s explore and enjoy winter wedding color palettes. 

Calling all Nature Lovers

A bride on her wedding day carrying her bouquet in the snow with her color palette.

Planning a winter wedding allows you to really tie in nature’s beauty. We’ve had many couples tie the knot in the mountains and we love the idea of using hues of the landscape around the venue. Tying in different shades of green gives you endless options for decorating. You can use fresh greenery such as ferns, pine garlands, or even fresh Christmas wreaths. Adorn your reception or ceremony space with fresh pine trees (decorated or not decorated). Then, think about adding a pop of color such as a vibrant magenta, or even a rich burgundy. This will give your event some contrast and will pop in photos. With this color palette, let nature really shine through your decor selections. Less can often be more and keep it organic with shades of nature’s beauty.

An Elegant Affair

There’s something about the holiday season that just says elegance. Maybe it’s the warm Christmas lights adorning trees, or the rich color tones, but the holiday season just has a certain flair. If you choose to host your wedding during the winter months, or in the holiday season, add a little bit of elegance with rich tones and elegant patterns. This is one of our all-time favorite tablescapes and we couldn’t be more excited to feature it as a winter color palette. This table is elegance at its finest. We chose a linen that elevated the table and utilized a pattern that was simple but timeless. The centerpiece is tied in winter with fresh winter greens and rich red flowers including roses, ranunculus, poppies, and touches of white dahlia. Hues of gold were added for warmth and to tie in the winter theme. This color scheme is truly elegant, and is just the right amount of “holiday”, but elevated. 

A Christmas inspired holiday tablescape.

Set the Mood

A couple who eloped in the mountain snow in front a beautifully decorated farm table with flowers and candles.

The MOOD y’all – I mean, how beautiful is this color palette. Choosing a winter wedding means you can be moody – for all the right reasons. We love when our couples want to be a little daring with a bit of romance. Rich, romantic colors like hues of burgundy, tied in with natural shades of brown can create the ultimate romantic vibe. Add touches of green in your table greenery and boutique to tie in the winter season. Be sure to add some contrast with shades of cream and white. We love how this decor came together and we can’t wait to meet our next clients who are ready to set the mood with a romantic color scheme!

Merry & BRIGHT

A beautiful sweetheart table in the snow in the mountains.

A lot of the time, when we discuss the potential of booking your wedding in the winter with our clients, the first reaction is – “well I don’t want to use Christmas colors.” That, my folks, is one of the biggest misconceptions with holding a winter affair. When people think of summer weddings, the assumption is that they are fun, bright, and filled with airy vibes. So, why can’t winter weddings be the same? Plain and simple, just because you are having a winter wedding does not mean that your wedding cannot be merry and bright. In fact, having vibrant pops of color throughout your winter event will add stunning details throughout your day! Bright shades of pink and peach can create a sunny atmosphere while still being true to the chilly months. This is one of our all time favorite wedding centerpieces. The colors are cheerful and fun, but it stays true to winter with the accents of green, burgundy, and red. This color palette says holidays, without going National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation on us. So, don’t limit your color palette just because you’re planning a winter wedding – you can still make your colors bright! 

While we just featured some of our favorite winter wedding color palettes, the ideas for wedding color schemes are endless. Winter opens so many options – no colors are off target. You can still have natural tones mixed with vibrant colors and stay true to a true winter decor scheme. Whether you want to focus on what nature has to offer, create a romantic moody affair, or feature merry and bright color shades – winter can handle it ALL. So, get creative, play with some colors and have fun with it – a winter wedding can feature it all. 


Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.

5 Things Only Winter Can Offer

Winter may not be everyone’s favorite season, but at Elegant Affairs we adore winter. In the wedding industry, winter means we have few weddings and often work at a slower pace. Some people may shy away from the chilly months ahead – but we fully embrace the season. Due to winter’s unique characteristics, there are a few things that only winter can offer that the other seasons cannot. Let’s explore a few of our favorite things that only winter can offer. 

Let it Snow! 

Our home base is in the Pacific Northwest. And even though we may not always have a ton of snowfall, we are close to the Cascade mountain ranges and can enjoy the mountains with just a short drive. We absolutely love the idea of featuring snow as the decor showstopper. Having your ceremony in an area where snow is visible is not only picturesque for your guests, but a cheap way to easily decorate the space! Now, we know that you may not have the ability to reach the mountains, or the weather may not be on your side, so there are other alternatives to make it snow on your wedding day! There are vendors and companies that can literally make it snow, in your venue space. Now, before you sign on the dotted line, be sure to talk to your venue and check your contract to make sure you’re not breaking any rules. Even synthetic snow can create the most magical effects and we promise you that the pictures will be to die for. 

Keeping Cozy

With the winter months, comes chilly weather. It is the perfect excuse to add some flair to your wedding day attire! There’s absolutely no need to worry about “will I be too hot” or sweating through your dress or having your makeup melt off. Cooler temps will keep your makeup and hair in place throughout the day. You are also able to dress up your wedding gown, or suits/tuxedos with some cozy winter accessories. We love when brides add a nice cape, or festive sweater, or even add some fun winter boots underneath. Not only is it functional in keeping you cozy, but it adds some character to your attire and adds some fun to your wedding photoshoots. You can also keep your guests cozy through the ceremony and reception with some added details. Line the front of the aisle with baskets of blankets, order some bulk gloves and be sure to prepare your guests for the elements prior to your wedding day. Blankets and accessories can even serve as your wedding favor, if you chose to do so! So, don’t let the chilly weather cause you to shy away from choosing the winter months for your weddings. Keeping cozy is a piece of cake with just a few accessories. 

Hot, Hot, Drinks!

In the summer months, sometimes it is so hot, that we find ourselves chugging water or the beverages served. Guests are just focused on keeping cool and staying hydrated. The winter months allow you to curate some special holiday drinks that will keep your guests warm and that they can savor! There are endless options for holiday drinks at a winter wedding. One of our favorites, is the classic hot cocoa bar. Go crazy with the topping options – peppermints, kisses, mini marshmallows — it’s a fun interactive drink option that all ages will love. For the adults, you can add some liquor that will pair with hot cocoa or even opt for some adult only drinks like spiked eggnog or mulled apple ciders. If you are planning on having your ceremony outside, you can even offer some warm drinks prior to the ceremony! It’s a great way to keep your guests warm and enjoy a little treat while watching you and your partner say “I do.” 

Date and Vendor Availability 

Winter weddings can mean that vendors such as wedding planners, caterers, photographers, and vendors have more availability. As people folk book the hot summer months, often that leaves more availability for the winter months. There tends to be less competition with the winter months, granted Christmas Eve and NYE tend to book quickly. There can also be lower prices in the winter months, especially with venues. Booking in winter can ease your pocket book and also open up more dates for you and your fiance! 

Seasonal Decor

Now, of course snow is the largest and most anticipated seasonal decor. But the winter season offers so many other unique choices that spring or summer cannot compete with. Often, venues decorate for the holidays and winter months. Check in with your vendor and see if they do decorate for the season! If they do – you’re in a great position to save a few bucks. You can use what the venue has planned for free. Even having a fireplace on during the reception can add instant of decorative ambience. In addition, let’s face it – we all love seasonal decor. We can’t help ourselves when the stores start to turn a little merry and bright. Winter means you can add touches of the holidays, a festive color scheme, and fresh, fragrant greenery – who doesn’t love the smell of balsam fir? You can’t get this kind of decor in the hot months and there’s just something about winter that we just can’t help but be cheery! 

Even though you may not live in a wintery location, you can still tie in touches of winter into your winter wedding. There are so many festive options to deck the halls in your event space and add some cozy accessories to your wedding party look. Venues are often filled with beautiful winter decor, so it puts some dollars back in your wedding budget. So, don’t shy away from the winter months – instead look to see what it can offer you! We love booking winter weddings, so if you’re in the mood for create your perfect winter wedding – we’d be more than MERRY to help you make your dreams come true. 


Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Tacoma Wedding Planner with over 18 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.