Wedding etiquette is often unspoken about in the modern ages. It can be uncomfortable for some, and often many avoid talking about the subject. Traditionally, or many years ago, etiquette was that the bride’s family pays for the wedding and the groom’s family pays for the wedding rehearsal. But, folks – times have changed and what we know as etiquette or historically done has gone out the window. In today’s society, weddings are truly a reflection of who the couple are and what their values are. Etiquette varies from couple to couple. So, today – we’re here to discuss what is the modern wedding etiquette in 2024-2025. Is there still a “desired” way to throw a wedding? 

Fall is in the area, especially in the PNW! Now, here in the South the air is slowly starting to turn crisp. But that doesn’t mean that we should assume the weather will be predictable during the season of change! We love a fall wedding. What is there not to love? You have crisp air, cooler temperatures, seasonal decor, and well – let’s face it sometimes unpredictable weather. You may wake up and the temperature has dropped significantly, or the fog has rolled in from the water. No matter where you are, you will need to plan for unpredictable weather during any time of the year. But, today, let’s break down how to create a game plan for the unpredictable weather changes in the fall! 

#01: Have a Backup Plan
If you know us and have been a reader for more than a minute, you may be tired of us saying, have a back up plan! We cannot stress this enough. No matter what season your wedding will occur, you need a plan A and a plan B. And let’s face it, sometimes you’ll need a plan C! Whether or not you need to execute your backup plans, you’ll need to consider all the possibilities and what to do if the worst weather event occurs on your wedding day. If your venue is outside, consider holding your ceremony and reception inside if the weather changes. Or, contact local vendors to see if heating elements can be rented for the cold, or a tent can be purchased just in case. 

#02: Communicate! 
If you have a wedding website, or include an additional card in your invitation suite, you’ll need to communicate the potential weather changes with your guests – and vendors too! If you have guests traveling from out of town, give them a heads up on what to expect. Sometimes, even when I travel from the south, I forget that the North’s 60 degrees is COLD to me. I’m always rushing to the nearest store to bundle up. If you do create a backup plan, let your vendors know so that they can be prepared; especially your caterer and photographer! 

#03: Provide Comfy Items
Pre-plan and have some comfy items available for your guest. As the fall temperatures drop, consider having a basket or area where guests can grab a blanket, shawl, foot or hand warmers. This will allow your guests to remain comfortable throughout the duration of the wedding. 

#04: Prepare Appropriate Attire
We recommend letting your guests know if the venue is inside or outside and the weather for the season. You want to give your guests a heads up on what to bring and how to dress for the weather and location. For your wedding party, you may want to consider long sleeves, or cozy shoes, or even layering up with a cute shawl or jacket. If the weather is cold, have a plan for staying warm throughout the day or ways to quickly warm up.

#05: Consider the Florals! 
Flowers are sensitive to heat and cold. You will want to work closely with your florist to determine what flowers are appropriate for the fall season. We love seeing clients use festive florals like mums, dahlias, sunflowers, and eucalyptus. These are hardy to withstand both heat and cooler temps. You’ll want to ensure the florals you select can withstand any abrupt cold or hot temperatures as fall is often unpredictable!

#06: Consider your Decor! 
You can easily create decor that will support the unpredictable weather of fall. Along with tented receptions, you can add drapes to keep warmth in, add rich colors to tie into fall and incorporate meaningful decor pieces that will add warmth to your overall design scheme. And of course, select lighting that will set the mood for your wedding day and give a nod to fall. 

 #07: Plan your Start and End Accordingly 
We recommend planning your wedding times, according to the weather, specifically the temperatures and sunset. We love ourselves a sunset wedding, but we also know with fall, the weather cools drastically in the evening. As you plan and create your timeline, consider your guests and their levels of comfort as the night goes on. You also want to ensure that you are missing the heat of the afternoon. 

As you plan your fall wedding, you’ll need to keep in mind that the season is changing and you may need to alter and adjust your plans to meet those changes. Consider your guests and keep their comfort in your mind as your plan your wedding day. Ensure that they are safe from the elements and are comfortable throughout the night. Create your backup plan and provide comfort items for guests throughout the night, including the ceremony and reception. As you select your decor items, ensure they can withstand the cooler or spikes in temperature. Planning a wedding in fall can be unpredictable, but it you prepare you will be ready for anything! 

Lori Losee is the owner of Elegant Affairs, a Seattle Wedding Planner with over 19 years of experience. We create awe-inspiring experiences—Events filled with meaning and refined elegance. Behind the scenes, our experienced team collaborates on each stage of the process, executing your vision and a wedding, celebration, or corporate event that is unique to you.